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Many women who are warm and openhearted choose men who are closed and shut down because we hope we can provide a catalyst for them to open up. Our efforts usually fail, because these men have not made their own commitment to being more open. Trained to be nurturers and caregivers, women often think we are behaving as we should - doing what we have been socialized to believe is a woman’s job. We may even experience the constant tension between these two different value systems - a man who has chosen to avoid intimacy and a woman who desires intimacy - as stimulating. Importantly, though, this unfulfilling work keeps us from the real work of intimacy.
image: drawing of a mom, dad, and child in front of a house. text: “Sometimes I catch myself dreaming of my future as a housewife with a husband and kids. Then I remember I’m a lesbian who doesn’t really like kids and the future becomes way more scary.”
Sleater-Kinney - Angry Inch
Fred Schneider is on this track. I can’t even deal with this it is so perfect I actually started tearing up oh my god please listen to this